My Old Skincare Routine is a video that I’m presenting to you today for your viewing pleasure. The host, Rae Amari, continues to bless me and I’m certain you will enjoy all that she has to share. The video talks about our blog Still Sealed With Love. The purpose of this blog is to promote my Celebration of Life and the products that I sell.
As you may be used to, my mission is still to encourage others to live the life that God has given to us. In addition to sharing my life stories, I am now a Life, Accident and Health Insurance Agent and Broker. I am also an Independent Consultant for Paparazzi (TM) Accessories.
I’d love for you to stop by and enjoy this time with me. Take a look, drop me a line and while you’re at it, take a look at this video that features what I do, by this Wonderful Woman. Rae Amari is on the rise and you want to be there to see and experience all that she has to offer!
It’s a #WAR Story Wednesday at #sheplants! (one of my FB groups), I’m here to tell my War Story that’s Real and of Resilience.
For the past 25 years of my life I have worked in an all-male, all-white field (of which I am neither). I began working in the industry as a teenager. I worked tirelessly, with a spirit of excellence that was rewarded by promotions, wonderful opportunities and awesome relationships.
In the middle of the 25 years I switched companies (the companies are direct competitors) for an increase in pay. Again, I was rewarded as I was in the first corporation. This WAR Story sounds like a blessing because it was. My employment took care of my family. God blessed me in a place where I stood out like a sore thumb, where I met people everyday who did not want me. Instead of me feeling like the cactus (treated like so often), I was able to bloom like a tree and the fruit and branches gave my home provision. (I’m poetic 😁).
The reason that I compare myself to a tree is because throughout the past quarter of a century (yes, girl, Mama looks good for her age), I endured several storms. As I said earlier, women and color were not factors of my workplace, especially being a single parent. There were trainings that required travel (I never missed any in 25 years). I often worked 24/7 being on call, while raising my kids, might I add. If you are close to me, I’m sorry about the times that I left the table, or the room, to take yet another phone call, or worse, pull out my laptop.
Some people may say, “you had a job”! Believe me when I say that I am not complaining. I’m just telling my story. Did I mention the enormous amount of discrimination that I dealt with? Probably not, and unfortunately, that’s as far as I can go with that topic at this time.
Yet, and still, I was and am blessed. I was able to accomplish so much while underneath so much pressure. I took it, I dealt with it, I smiled and oh, I CONQUERED. Click To Tweet I learned how to let my voice be heard. My work and my reputation spoke LOUDLY for me. Through childbirth, separation, divorce, child-rearing, school (both theological and college education), trials, tribulations, relationships, rebirth, courting, marriage and graduations, I made it!
Millennials are now in control (that’s what I’m told) and my time in that industry is done. I believe that God has new waters for me. Stay tuned as I write about it more in depth because there are so many stories to tell. I just wanted to share this war story with you to say that I made it!
My cell phone is dead! As I was traveling yesterday, my cell phone dropped and hit the concrete ground. Like so many other times, I reached down to dust it off and access the damage. “NO!” I’m screaming in my mind, the screen is black, cracked and it won’t light up! What am I going to do? I was heading to the train station to go into Manhattan and for a much needed date with my husband. Then I look back at my phone in disbelief and decide that I.Can.Do,This! I will travel without a cell phone today.
I get up to the train station and to my surprise there’s a pay phone. The pay phone costs 50 cents. When is the last time that I carried change? Standing with the train leaving, I’m trying to scrounge and pray for 50 cents worth of change. Found it! Yes God! I’m so happy, I try to call my husband, I’m glad that I remember his number. When I get through, I try to explain my phone situation and arrange to meet him at the same time. He’s trying to understand, thinking that the phone battery is dead. I’m afraid of losing my call, panicking, I’m trying to arrange where to meet but we’re not speaking the same language at all. Gotta go! The train is about to leave!
I’ll Meet You
The train is freezing because I left my jacket in the car (I blame it on the phone, I lost focus completely). I slept all of the way to my stop, got off the train and I walked to my destination only to remember that we didn’t communicate well and now there’s no sight of my husband. In the reception area of where we’re due to meet I’m informed that the only person with my husband’s name is not married, after a series of phone calls. Really??? I walk around for a bit trying to figure out what to do. “My cell phone is dead”, I keep thinking.
I want to eat to deal with the feelings that I’m experiencing. Instead I find myself going back inside to leave a note in case someone sees my man walk in. I ask again, and the gentleman behind the counter says, “I thought I heard you say that name earlier”. He gets me the clearance required to enter this beautiful building where I’m meeting my love.
“Oh no”! He is attending a meeting prior to our date and its running over schedule. As I sit and wait, I notice that time is escaping us and I have to return home. I parked my car for 6 hours and the time is running away from us. I ask my husband for his cell phone because I have to contact our daughter, something that’s been bothering me since the phone died. Why is his cell phone at 4%??? I contact her and pray that she gets my message. After 1/2 of an hour and 1% left on his battery she answers me saying, “ok”. Teenagers! I drag myself to bid farewell to my Boo Thang, (he’s so understanding) and I get ready to leave.
Somehow Making it Through the Day
I’m really greedy and since I have no phone I decide to drown my sorrow with some food, of course. After getting something to eat, I commenced to take the walk back to the train. I jump on the train which is now filled with people coming home from work. A dear friend gets on the train and she helps me to keep my mind off of standing without a cell phone to read. We chat for a while until her stop comes and I final see a seat for me. I sit down and fall asleep. Not only was my phone dead, but I did a lot of walking today (more than what I usually do), so sleep was in order. What else is there to do when your cell phone is dead?
I return to my car and now I’m deciding whether I should go home or go to my phone carrier’s shop. On the drive, I’m thinking about how I’ve missed my nephew’s swearing in to the military. Then I started thing about the notifications that I’ve missed. I can’t check emails or know if I sold any jewelry. How many calls and messages that I’ve gotten from people and the fact that I have so many people to get back to?
As I arrive at my destination and look for parking. Great! There are spots available! I’m elated. I jump out of the car and I realize that I have to pay for parking. “No problem”, I think to myself. I’ll pay on my app like I normally do. “Oh no”! I can’t pay with a dead phone. Now I have to look for change to feed the meter. I don’t remember the last time I did that. Thank God the meter took dollar bills. I paid for too much time and went to the phone store.
In the phone store, I learn that there’s nothing that can be done for my old (2-year old) phone. It’s time to upgrade. For a nominal fee, I upgrade and get the accessories to avoid future injuries. I really didn’t want to spend this money today. Why today of all days? Why me? This won’t get me down. While I’m waiting I begin to talk with the salesman as he rings me up. I tell him how good God is, that without working for a job, here I am with a new phone and with everything that I need. Within 40 minutes, we laugh about my cute new case and with my final signature, I’m out of the store and on my way to my car.
I decide to use my new phone. I knew it was time to call people and let them know that I am now reachable. I’m walking in the street not looking because I don’t know how to use this phone. I stop and stand still and I try everything until I finally figure out how to get off of the home screen. I call my Mr. and he tells me he’s nearby, he left the meeting a few minutes after I did. I’m listening and praying that this information doesn’t upset my day further. I’m still full, but I ask, “did you eat”? He lets me know that he hasn’t and he wants McDonald’s (which I hate). The fat girl in me decides, I can use a shake. “Ok, I’ll meet you there”.
We finally get our date and the service was horrible. The food was horrible. You could not have convinced me that my cell phone being dead would truly have an impact on my day like it did. I was so ready to live without it. No notifications all day and night. I imagined being able to see the world and not look down at it. It was the opposite. Here I am a woman of a certain age needing my cell phone! The new phone is amazing, I just need to learn how to use it. We went home and laughed about the day. After talking like 2 schoolkids, we talked with our family and discussed the day. Everyone laughed and laughed. It was time to turn in. We slept like babies and woke up happy.
My old cell phone is dead, which probably just means that it was time for my new phone. Isn’t she pretty?
This week’s journey was another whirlwind. Are your ready to read about it? Another set of highs and lows, successes and failures set the backstage for where we are right now.
This Week’s Journey…4/17/18 – 4/21/18
Sunday, I went to church and it was so good. I learned and I worshipped and I felt peace. If I could have come home and slept for 2 hours that would have been the perfect reset. By now, you know, that did not happen. I already determined in my mind that this week would be so much different. Plans were made during last week’s journey to begin living a balanced life.
Monday, I prepared for my week by resting and working on promoting my brand. I made a few phone calls that I was procrastinating about making. Not too shabby at all, I didn’t get much done and it didn’t hurt, terrific! To make it even better I received my biggest Paparazzi order to date! Making Monday wonderful and Tuesday great! I volunteered for a wonderful program called the Pajama Program, where we read to children while providing them with pajamas. It was over the top for me. Meeting the children was wonderful, they were so excited. The children enjoyed the book reading and really enjoyed the pajamas. I enjoyed myself so much and I look forward to doing it again. I was on a complete high note and took myself over to an interview.
My interview went well considering that I had prior knowledge of the company before arriving. We laughed and talked and I sat through a small preview of the work that would be done. We immediately scheduled a demo for me to participate in the very next day to see if I’d like the work that’s involved. Wednesday came and I was exhausted because I couldn’t stop thinking about, 1) enjoying myself volunteering, 2) doing well on an interview, 3) a day following someone and what that would be like, 4) I still have to blog, when will I do that?! and now 5) I’m doing an entire-day long demo. Nevertheless, I get up and I arrive, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, ready to go on time!
I spent 8 hours with a senior worker who’s energy level was on 150%. All that I could do was admire this woman. She is excited and ready for whatever life brings. God is good! Another person would have never convinced me to join this company. This woman is so alive about life! She reminds me of myself. I consider the fact that I’m Still Sealed With Love and it breathes life into me everyday so I should definitely have her energy. Here, a woman of a particular age with the body of a teenager and the energy to match, all that I can still say is WOW! Celebrate the life God has given you! Click To Tweet
The Phone Call!
The demo wore me out! I’ll have to work on my energy levels to get to this lady’s level. At home I promoted on Pinterest, caught up with some Instagram followers and fell backwards and straight to sleep in my chair while doing so. Thursday, in the rain, I ran errands and I went to a seminar that I was scheduled to attend and I’m happy to say that I learned something, it wasn’t a waste of time. Then, the phone call came through!
A second interview was requested but I had to schedule a time. There isn’t any time like the present, so I scheduled it to happen after the seminar and some finagling was done, this time-no, this time, you know, the back and forth and getting it right thing. Needless to say, we met and I signed the dotted line. Next step, I’m going to training and I’m set to take the test to become a licensed insurance agent in the State of New York. Can you say nervous?
What Happened to Friday?
Now, according to my new plan, of “living a balanced life”, should have been in full swing. I should be able to relax on Fridays and Saturdays. Unfortunately, my great highs/successes during the week helped me to get off track and Friday became one of those Fridays that I never want again. It wasn’t all bad, just really weird. I should have been off and my husband was off, we were scheduled for relaxation.
Everyone was home and we had a really big breakfast. So far, so good, everything is going nicely. BOMB! What happened? Irritability kicked in. I attempted to avoid irritation by doing a little promoting since I was in the land of doingnothingness (my made up word for a place where I do nothing). Everyone is yelling about different things. I’m now in the middle of the mess. The day continued with one low after another. Most of the house disappeared outside so that it was only my husband and I left disagreeing about every single thing underneath the great big sun.
We never went out. Neither one of us did anything for fun. I don’t remember laughing. It was as if I needed a completely terrible day to balance out the rest of my week. Incredible, right? Now, I’m working on my new week, preparing for my LIVE videos and writing you. How was your week?
Do you have a plan for living a balanced life? Would you mind sharing it with me?
Thanks for joining me on this week’s journey. It was a strange experience. It started out good, then really low, then kind of crazy and through many revelations, it ended on a high! I’ll tell you all about it, hopefully, you will have some advice for me.
I joined an engagement pod and didn’t realize the amount of time that needed to be in invested to stay current in the group. Spending every waking moment commenting on various posts took the life out of me. I didn’t have a system and I was struggling to create posts to keep up. Instagram drew me into a world where I stopped taking care of my normal everyday functions so that I could ensure that I was liking and commenting on everyone else’s posts. In addition to trying to take care of my home, I failed to find a balance and burned out completely. I spent Monday through Wednesday in a complete fog, my creativity went into hibernation.
Finally on My Journey!
Thursday I hung out with my sister and the time away from home was so good. I was finally out of the house. Yeah! Still no blog post, but I posted on Instagram.
On Friday, New York truly experienced spring! I ventured out of the house and enjoyed the sunshine. Sunglasses and the absence of a jacket felt like heaven! The weather was warm and inviting and it helped brighten my mood. Invigoration at last! Later in the day I took a walk and posted a few LIVE videos, it felt so good. I posted on our Facebook page that I would finally do a blog post. I had a good post on a Friday so I knew it was the right day to create a post. Sadly, it didn’t happen.
On Saturday, first, I did my LIVE video for my Facebook Group, “Grow A Minute-A-Day With God“. I was looking forward to the turn out that I had the week before and the most people that attended were 4 at one time. That didn’t last either, the true turn out was 2 people for the majority of the “interactive” video. I went to a surprise birthday party for a good friend of mine. It was so refreshing to get dressed and go out! I thank God for the experience. I was able to see and hug people who I miss and love and it was a good occasion. It’s sad that most reunions are during funerals, but this was a beautiful space and time to see people that I love.
I’m traditional and by the book with what I do. Growing up around people who believed in getting over on the system was frustrating for me. Many people who I knew growing up loved getting over on people or haggling them. I’m uncomfortable doing these things. I like things straight so that I can go back and find what I originally sought after.
I have neither the time nor the patience for people doing things that are illegal, or underhanded. I’m not saying that I’m a plain Jane, just that I believe in decency and in ORDER.
You can’t use my social security number.
You can’t claim a child of mine on your taxes.
You can’t drive my car around without being on my insurance.
You can’t use my address so that you can do whatever it is that you do.
You CAN’T use my debit card.
You can’t borrow my clothes.
I will not call your job and pretend that you’re sick.
I will not help you, if you haven’t even begun to help yourself.
I will not read what you should have read for yourself.
I will not handle your business.
I will not lie for you.
I’m screaming, GROW UP, take responsibility for your own actions and stop asking people to handle what you alone are responsible for. God has helped me to do so much on my own, so I advise you to pray and listen to what He has to say, then do it.
I will need you to haul yourself out of here! Keep walking. Do what’s right for you, please and thank you!
via Daily Prompt: Haul
Another day in my life! It started so peacefully. I said my prayers, read my bible, I even did a small workout. I was feeling pretty good, the day was starting out great and on a positive note! Checking my notifications has become a part of my daily routine, so I proceeded with starting this daily task.
I am a new Independent Consultant for Paparazzi Accessories and I am hosting my Launch Party this weekend, imagine my surprise when I opened my Facebook event and found myself blocked from inviting anyone! Without panicking, I attempted to invite people through my different devices. Adding hosts was difficult but I did it and begged them to invite others. I sent a report stating that I was blocked, nothing was working. I sat and allowed the stress to quietly, but quickly, take over my body.
After some time had passed, 2 of my new hosts were able to get 120 people invited. It wasn’t the 1000 that I wanted to invite but it’s a start, considering that the party begins on Friday. While I am trying to breathe again I realize that my new (used) vehicle still needs to be inspected and the money reserved for the inspection is gone. Amazing, it’s another day in my life!
It’s been a rough day, but it’s what a day in my life looks like sometimes. Now I have to get back in the saddle and get some posting done, some cleaning done, and rebuild the relationships that I attacked throughout the day.
How do you handle the really busy and aggravating days in your life?